Let’s be honest right now. Turning 45 isn’t a massive drama. It’s a period of awakenings. The time you realise you don’t need to perform for anyone. You gave way too much power to what others think about your body size, your accent, and even your choices. And suddenly one day, going out in thermal tops is vital to a good night out, drawing the curtains with fluffy PJs on is your sanctuary, and your give-a-damn meter starts running low. And that is your superpower.
You stop chasing approval and start chasing peace, contentment, and comfort. You bring a fearless, authentic, crow’s feet and all version of you showing up as your true self in the world.
Truth is this: there is no decline with age; it is an upgrade to your newest self, optimized, debugged, and running smoothly. The outdated beliefs about yourself have been deleted, and you are running on calm confidence.
In this blog, I will show you why getting older is not the start of the decline, but your direct route to presence, confidence and freedom.
So why should you embrace your age and what can you do to change your view on why aging really is a superpower and how you too can embrace getting older…
Time is Your Currency
You have the choice of who you invest your energy in. Who makes your heart sing, who makes you belly laugh, and who makes you feel safe and as though you can’t wait to see them again? They are the ones who now get your time. Anyone who brings uncertainty, the dreaded walking on eggshells analogy, makes you feel unsafe, unheard, or even sad and low because of their projections and gaslighting, no longer get your currency spent on them!
Level up with Comfort over Trendy
Wear the damn thermal top, the cozy pjs, and the thick socks. Allowing yourself to express relief and comfort through your clothing is part of shaking the people-pleasing behaviours. Being YOU and feeling relaxed in your own skin is levelling up and your way of saying, “This is me”. You will get the best version of me if I feel safe, calm, and comfortable being just myself.
Feck Perfection Let’s Get Present
Getting older gives you full permission to enjoy every moment with gratitude and joy instead of rushing around multitasking the crap out of life. Becoming present and appreciating that morning coffee, the birds singing, the kids getting on, is all a great way of saying eff you to the noise outside. You know, the rat race that is calling for you to feel on edge and anxious about what you “should” be doing.
Fearless and Going For It!
Getting older makes you realise there was never “the right time”. The “perfect moment” never existed. You were always allowed to begin in that moment, and it was always going to feel a little scary. And now that you have that knowledge, you get to take action on whatever it is you want to do. So start that dancing class, join that volunteer group on a Tuesday, and sign up for the college course. Embrace the discomfort because you and I know that it is a temporary feeling that leads you to growth and contentment.
Encore
Look at being 45 this way: You’re at your own encore set and the crowds are going wild for you. You get to choose all the songs you want to perform, not the songs you thought the crowd preferred.
You decide if getting older is the start of your decline, fading into the background, or the start of your refinement, where getting older is getting bolder.
Ready to age with excitement? Find a life coach near you that completely gets it. One that talks your lingo and understands the complicated messiness of midlife and helps you turn your ageing awakenings into your most unfolding era! Your next adventure starts right where you are, preferably in your fluffy pjs. Book a free taster session, let’s chat, and learn what the possibilities could be for you.
I’m ready to feel confident and be set free of my fears and anxiety.